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If you have never experienced EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique, then you should. This article is for those who have practiced EFT and understand the terms and process.
The short story for EFT is that it utilizes statements with tapping key points on your body. Once you figure out the set up process and practice the Gambit a few times you will begin to notice a change.
EFT and TFT, Thought Freedom Technique, the “father” of EFT, uses tapping and emotion, thoughts, words, in combination. Then you check again, your level of emotion in connection with the problem. If the sense of emotion is not at a zero, tap another round.
It can feel very silly at first, but practice does make perfect. I am still a student and must confess not a regular user of either technique. But, I will say when I remember to use it at a heightened emotional moment, it goes away, permanently. When I remember the situation there is no power in it any more. Great for overcoming anxiety and fear. 
But be warned, it does take using it, again and again, sometimes several times, depending on the situation and its core depth.
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Bless you and remember I am here for consult, weekly chats, and email support. You are not alone.
There are so many holidays around the world this time of year, Christmas, Yuletide, Hanukkah, Boxing Day, and these are only the ones I can remember right now.
This is a great time of year, preparations for a new year and wonderful new events.
Each year there are resolutions. Each year there are self-punishments dished out for not meeting the resolve for change. The thought is not the same as a desire.
Fear blocks change, it is strong, lives in secret, and whispers continuously to you.
When we meet the enemy it is easier to learn understanding, compassion, and find a safer path.
We each have the capacity to meet our enemy, love it, and work with it. Fear is the enemy. It has not been trained to care for self. It is our job to teach Fear how to provide protection without harm.
Learning to listen is simple, not always easy. It means that dedication, commitment, and practice must occur.
The only resolution that should be made is to love self, no matter what. The Divine loves you in all your glory, just as you are. For those of you that believe you are the daughter and son to the Divine, I ask you how can you provide yourself any less?
You do not have to travel this journey alone. Find those who believe in the love of the Divine, who will support you and gently guide you. Not those who punish, condemn, and control.
Believe it or not there are people in this world who understand, will share your journey, not work to make you fit into their mold, and accept you as you are. These people will guide you to learn how to live the same way, in peace and love.
Have a blessed holiday season and a wonderful new year. Birth is upon us.
With the coming holidays it is good to discover other traditions, understand them, and bring the spiritual aspect together.
I am interested in spiritual development, but more importantly learning about those I serve. This means I read and gain an understanding to the cultural and religious spirit of those I serve.
Wayne Church has built a blog that covers that part of our history we have forgotten. Today’s post is about Hanukkah. Take a moment and discover the traditions that fill so many homes this time of year.
UnerasedHistory – Things I Learned Today – December 20th | UnerasedHistory.
Bless you and Happy Holidays.
I have now added my Google Voice contact button on my Contact page. Click to call me. Rings through to my home.
Stay tuned more ways to contact me coming soon.
I am seeking click to contact software so I can streamline our sessions on line with payment processor. If you have any ideas let me know.
Thank you, short sweet and to the point today.
Peace be with you.
I went in search again for another line of income, another way of earning a living. The mass offerings is amazing. Have you read the fine print? You could write a few books just from the fine print. Every work at home offer provides the same message: freedom of time, six figure income, wealth freedom, more time to spend with your family, and all the material possessions one could ever dream of. All those items on your list that has mislead you to think that happiness and joy are yours.
What does this have to do with living a powerful life? Think about it. The messages we receive every day through advertising, job searches, each one seeking to offer you another way to relieve your fears. Promises of overcoming poverty. With money comes power, thus a powerful life is yours.
Well? I know you have become either so cynical that your anger flares when these types of messages appear or you keep hoping and wishing for change. Which is it? Perhaps under the anger the hope still lingers and because once you tried something similar and it did not work, so now anger covers for you.
I keep researching, reading the fine print. Each word resonates with some part of me that hopes for the truth in advertising. Hopes that if I only apply myself an extra hour each day riches will be mine. Sound like a lost cause? Nah. It is all a part of my spiritual journey.
Living a powerful life is simple, not complex at all. As humans we tend to complicate everything in our daily path. Even breathing in and out gets complicated. If I ask you right now to stop reading, close your eyes and take a breath in through your nose, then parting your lips slightly, bringing a smile to those lips, then exhaling slowly, would you? Or would these few words confuse you and feel complicated, impossible, or difficult? Listen, do nothing. Notice.
That is the biggest key to living a powerful life, listening. Stop. Do nothing. Notice. What does your mind tell you? What do your eyes tell you? Can you hear the outside world? And what about the skin? Can you feel your clothes against your skin? Notice. Do nothing.
A powerful life according to Thich Nhat Hanh is as simple as breathing and noticing the breath as it enters and exits. I spent the past month reading The Art of Power by Thich Nhat Hanh.
The art of power cultivation begins with the inward journey.
The act of living mindfully begins with the breath, then noticing each action as it is completed. This is near impossible to do with every breath and action through out your day. But one of the greatest suggestions given by Thich Nhat Hanh is to set a bell to ring at intervals through the day reminding you to breath, notice, then move on into the day. The promise is a cultivation of mindfulness that makes your day less stressful and happy.
Bless you this day. Enjoy each breath. Peace be with you.
This is not a new topic here, as you will notice when you browse the archives. But it is important to review periodically, at least I believe it is.
Each day we are bombarded by millions, trillions, zillions of information, sensory information. This includes sights, sounds, touch, smell, tastes, our environment is recorded by every sense we possess. Is it any wonder when someone mentions stress reduction techniques or needing to practice them a slight chuckle arises? How do you reduce stress from your environment?
The answer is by being unconscious, mindless, not tuned in, rather tuning out. That bit of zoning out that every person does through out the day. Working on a project? Notice how you focus on what you are doing, not what is going on around you. Easily distracted? Notice how you pay more attention to the rants within mind, the noises in your environment.
Both scenarios are stressors. Learning how to de-stress is a stressor. The person giving you the instructions makes it sound so easy, don’t they? Or do they? Is it not your concept of what you hear that says it should be easy? Yes, it is your mind that tells you it should be easy based on what you heard the person tell you.
Reading my instructions for Mindfulness is not easy, simple, but not easy. Practice is the primary need for everything one pursues. Oh, and diligence.
Spirituality is the place in your life you can go to de-stress, to be unmindful of your surroundings. The point of mindfulness that brings peace and tranquility.
Spirituality is the practice of creating a conscious contact with the Divine, a God or Goddess, or both. The Divine of your understanding, not mine or someone else’s.
When I sit with a client I discuss his or her understandings, impart some information for discussion, guide him or her to try on different aspects, or to stand strong with the current belief. But if that belief is ill formed and causing stress, it is my responsibility as a spiritual teacher to offer suggestions, information, and tasks to practice, examine or research in order to aid in the shift, bringing comfort, not discomfort.
In the beginning discomfort is a bit of a disappointment because it seems to still occur. There is a shift that is in process and it never comes with out some form of ill at ease or anxiety. Working as a spiritual teacher, a guide, it is important to help the person to understand the process to developing a spiritual life.
Spirituality is the escape, the support, the ground on which solid foundations for a peaceful life are built. Spirituality brings love and is love. Love for all things, the good, the bad, the ugly, the dis…..
Spirituality is peace. You will find it in your breath, stillness, activity, stress, laughter, and tears. Because you are spirituality. Everything you need you already have. There is no need to go in search of, not externally, just sit, listen to breath. Notice.
This is not a journey you do alone, find like minded people to share the journey with you, to lead you, to inspire you. One of the tools I suggest and push for is to develop a like minded community. Increase the love community by ten fold, have more people who inspire and love you than would demean you and yell at you.
Do not forget I am available. I am with you all ways, you remain in prayer. May the Divine provide you all that you require in this journey. Bless you.
Hello my fellow spiritual travelers.
This is a quick note to update you on some changes that are a comin’.
I have been working on an appointment calendar. When you click the Pay Now Buttons on my Services page you will be taken to PayPal. On this page you can opt to use your credit or debit card or pay with your PayPal account. If you do not have a PayPal account, no worries, it is free to set up. It is not required, however.
You will receive an email confirming the payment with a link to set your appointment or appointments for coaching/counseling. The cancellation policy is clearly outlined. You will be able to schedule appointments ahead of time but no sooner than within 24 hours. Please be sure to write down the appointment.
I have also been working out what information I require from you prior to our appointments. I have come to realize this will depend on the nature of our time together. Since I am not a therapist or licensed psychologist as yet, I will not be conducting therapy with you. However, this does not mean that the situation you find yourself coping with is not important. I will do what I am able in teaching coping skills, for instance.
I am excited with the changes I am making and hope to make the most of electronic means to streamline the process of making and paying for appointments with me.
If you have questions about any of my services or find yourself unsure about the benefits I am available for a free 30 minute consultation by instant messenger or phone. Schedule an appointment today.
Peace be with you.
The dictionary would define a teacher as someone who instructs, provides training regarding defined subjects such as math, reading, writing, science, history, and extended studies. Teachers teach. Is that all there is to being a teacher? No.
What does it take to be a teacher? This has become a subject of research. One book that has been invaluable to me is the Course in Miracles. The last section of the manual is the Teacher’s Manual. Within these pages are the guidance and wisdom one may choose to follow in becoming the best teacher in the world.
Teachers teach that which they need to learn. Teachers are students. Students are teachers.
This former cannot happen when one is closed to learning, believes he or she has learned all there is and refuses to open to new experiences. Though it can become comfortable where one decides to rest.
The Teacher’s Manual explains that everyone is a teacher when he or she decides to become one. This is God’s appointment to each person. Yet, I believe that one may teach without realizing it. When it is considered as Kahlil Gibran has pointed out, we may learn tolerance from intolerance, patience from impatience, love from hate, and learn what we do not want through observation of those around.
Teachers who follow the path of the Divine, who choose to become teachers of God hold qualities that are shared openly and easily through exchange. These are trust, honesty, tolerance, gentleness, joy, generosity, defenselessness, faithfulness, patience, and open-mindedness. Above all these are born from love, without love nothing else exists.
The first rule in my life is no one must trust, believe, respect, or be honest with me. This is not your job. It is my job to hold these qualities, share in these characteristics. Through time, exchange of ideas, discussion, one will grow to trust, respect, believe, and choose to be honest with me. It is the natural progression of life. The exchange keeps love alive and well. Because all relationships are an exchange of qualities that are born of love.
Teachers learn from their students, as students become the teacher. To be a teacher is to sit in a desired and fearful position. A teacher holds the life of another, the information spoken and shown effect the other person. This cannot be avoided.
As a spiritual teacher the rules are simple, honesty, trust, gentleness, compassion, and love are provided to the student. There is no subject that is taboo, no topic avoided, no idea rejected. As a spiritual teacher, the guidance and information provided is for the student.
The spiritual teacher is not Divine, but human, walking the path laid before filled with the same obstacles and challenges of anyone. Some variation occurs in the type of event, but the same skills are required to traverse this human life.
Blessings and peace be with you.
Do you know what you want in a therapist, coach, mentor, or sponsor? Would you choose someone who has a similar history? Would you feel more comfortable with someone who does not know about your background, you in general and has never experienced a similar life?
Some important considerations when seeking out a person to guide, teach, mentor and counsel you begin with your goals. What is your purpose to asking someone to be there for you? Do you need a teacher, someone who can teach you what you need to know to succeed in a chosen task or job?
For instance, career counseling and coaching are beneficial to someone just beginning a career or changing careers. Job search and resume writing is so much easier when you have an experienced person to guide you. The career counselor or coach would guide you in how to sit, speak, appearance, and other aspects to interviewing and landing the job of your dreams.
Unsure about organizing, cleaning house, gardening, knitting, even praying and meditation are skills that someone will teach you if you ask.
There are those who enter a 12-step program and find a sponsor. A sponsor is someone who is willing to guide another in learning the 12-steps. What the steps mean, how to apply them for every event or thought in one’s life, and how to guide others. A sponsor is the most trusted individual you have in your recovery. The beginning of learning how to develop healthy relationships. The decision is important to your recovery path.
Finding a spiritual adviser and teacher, minister, life coach, counselor or therapist takes the same decision making process as it does for any change you wish to make.
First know what it is you wish to achieve. Know your goals, the final outcome, and what you are willing to do to achieve it. Second decide if you are willing to listen, to follow suggestions, be open to discussions, new ideas, and a different view of you and your goals. Finally, search, ask questions, collect information. Then ask the one you selected to be your coach, guide, counselor, or???
The final step? Follow through. Remember not all relationships happen, trust does not just happen. It is learned, not earned. The trust you learn is not for others, it is for self.
Enjoy your journey, it is yours. The final word belongs to you. You decide.
Ready to begin your spiritual path? Contact me today. Let’s chat.
Bless you and may peace be with you all ways, in all ways.
I have added a Google Notice for the keyword “spirituality” to keep an eye on the various topics concerning this word. In the course of checking out the alerts I get once a week there is one title that showed more than any other: Spirituality versus Religion.
There is no versus, comparing spirituality to religion is like comparing apples to oranges. It cannot be done with any sense of realism or normalcy, even a definition escapes the comparison.
Got your thinking caps on or did you just think: This is crap. Maybe it is. But my job is not to tell you what is and what isn’t. I would never dream of interfering with your free will and freedom of choice.
However, I do dare bring a few things to mind so that you may be better informed and consider your current belief in regards to these two concepts. Because concepts they are.
Spirituality is an ideal, a sense of, a feeling, a way of being during meditation, it is beyond the physical realm. A state of being. Spiritual is a state of mind, spirituality is the way of living or being. It is not tangible, there are no rules, or ideals to master. Being a spiritual being is beyond the physical senses, physical plain, unseen with the human eye.
Now religion on the other hand is a collective, a culture, a society. Religion is a set of rules, laws, and common belief system that its members choose to believe and follow. The commonality is set with a governing class. The rules are designed to give the followers, members a guide to live by. Fear is the ruling staff in most religions. Do this not that or be punished, with punishment being a strong sensation of pain and anguish. Corporal punishment is meted out by a God who is jealous, designing, and controlling. Well in most religious writings.
Here is the question: How can you say spirituality versus religion? I do not see it, there is no competition between the two and no comparison.
You can have religion without spirituality and spirituality without religion. Can you have religion with spirituality and spirituality with religion? Yes. Of course you can.
Religion is the set of rules, spirituality is the set of being. Why not join them. When Jesus walked this earth he did so to teach the concept of love, not hate and war. His message was born of the spiritual concepts to move beyond the physical and reside in the realm of spirit.
So where you in your spiritual life? Do you assign spirituality to a set of rules to follow? Or are you like me, live in the state of spirituality more often than not? How do you know spirituality exists?
I would be interested in hearing your opinions, ideas, and join in the discussion.
Peace be with you.